3:18pmPayonidhi Das
I have a question for you
what isthe idea behind Galva?
what isthe idea behind Galva?
sorry it doubled my question
I am Payonidhi das
3:20pmAmara
Hare Krishna! Dandavats, pleased to meet you.
3:20pmPayonidhi Das
please accept mine
nice to meet you
I have never understood the concept
behind Galva
3:21pmAmara
Our objective is to provide support and outreach to the LGBT community.
As many often feel dejected, unwelcome, misunderstood, and so on.
3:22pmPayonidhi Das
so I hope to be better informed if you will be kind
3:23pmAmara
Everything is on our website, actually. You can go to the "Frequently Asked Questions" section.
http://www.galva108.org3:24pmPayonidhi Das
ok
lesbian and gays and?
ok well many would consider that preaching to the most fallen
a noble idea
I have never visited it
3:25pmAmara
Yes. Both Lord Caitanya and Srila Prabhupada didn't want anyone to escape from their mercy!
3:25pmPayonidhi Das
so this thirdgender issue
is also what Bhakti tirtha Swami once wrote about
that is nice
3:27pmPayonidhi Das
how about "devotees" with homossexaul and lesbian tendencies as there has been some in ISKCON?
3:27pmAmara
Yes, I discussed this topic with him on several occasions. Are you his disciple or friend?
3:27pmPayonidhi Das
well more like a friend or godnehew if you like
3:28pmAmara
There are very many, from Upendra, Allen Ginsberg, and myself during Srila Prabhupada's day, down to the present time.
3:28pmPayonidhi Das
that was homosexuals or thirdgender
3:28pmAmara
OK. He was my Godbrother.
3:29pmPayonidhi Das
what is the difference really
I knowRohini Kumara that has some problems
3:29pmAmara
The Vedic third gender refers to all types of gender-variant people--homosexuals, transgenders, the intersexed, etc.
3:30pmPayonidhi Das
intersexed?
sorry for my ignorance
3:30pmAmara
Intersex refers to people with both male and female anatomy (formerly known as hermaphroditism).
3:30pmPayonidhi Das
ok thanks
3:31pmAmara
These people also must be welcomed to Krsna. The material body is insignificant.
3:32pmPayonidhi Das
how can Galva help devotees like rohini Kumara and Bhavananda and others?
yes but homosexual activites and so on is often described as demoniac ,so how does these devotees deal with that
as is all illict sex
it seemed to me Srila Prabhupada just advised these devotees to get married to the opposite sex,no?
3:35pmAmara
Everyone must struggle to control their senses. But for this we need support, understanding, kindness, etc.
3:36pmAmara
Homosexuals are forbidden to marry women in our scriptures. Sometimes it is possible for bisexuals to marry, so perhaps Srila Prabhupada was referring to that.
3:36pmPayonidhi Das
ok
I admit I have properly been to imapatient in my own preaching ,but childabuse is something I have no tolerance for
3:37pmAmara
Me neither! GALVA does not support pedophilia whether gay or straight!
3:37pmPayonidhi Das
I recall he said they should get married
yes that is good
I did not think so
I hav soemtimes met lesbians and homosexuals on sankirtana and I do not avoid them based on this
3:39pmPayonidhi Das
as most sankirtana devotees would
3:40pmAmara
Good. Some devotees are very prejudiced but many are also very kind and inclusive to all like Srila Prabhupada was.
3:40pmPayonidhi Das
they are spirit souls and humans
yes i believe that is proper
how do you view gay marriage or lesbian mariage?
3:43pmPayonidhi Das
I was born in Denmark where they allowed this in 1982,but ISKCON as a religous society should never condone it
3:43pmAmara
I view this much like Hridayananda Goswami does. Celibacy is best but otherwise we should try to establish a stable marriage.
3:43pmPayonidhi Das
it may be ahuman rights issue
He blessed a gay couple you mean?
I do have a problem with that
3:44pmAmara
I think ISKCON should at least recognize it at the congregational level, for members who can't follow celibacy and who live outside the temple.
3:44pmPayonidhi Das
ok
that is ok
3:45pmAmara
Because if you don't encourage people to marry they will be promiscuous with many partners, which is even worse.
3:45pmPayonidhi Das
but for a sannyasi to bless gays and lesbians marriage seems very irreligious to me
it is true in Denmark where i was born after the marriage thing the Gay issue seemed solved
3:46pmAmara
I believe his idea was to encourage their commitment to a single partner.
3:46pmPayonidhi Das
and less recruting into this lifestyle took place
well for a sannyasi this is way to liberal in my humble opinion
though I understand
3:47pmAmara
According to our scriptures, gays are born that way. So you are either gay, straight or bisexual from birth. There is no question of recruiting or anything like that.
3:48pmPayonidhi Das
well my understanding is some gets "seduced into this kind of lifestyle"
3:48pmAmara
That's OK. Everyone has their own style of preaching. Some are very conservative and some are more liberal. I think it's good for ISKCON to accommodate all different styles.
3:48pmPayonidhi Das
ok
I can understand that idea,though I may not fully agree
3:49pmAmara
Some gays are celibate, others are married and others are promiscuous, so it's not a question of lifestyle.
3:49pmPayonidhi Das
personally I believe the solution is advocating chanting 64 rounds and transcending this
anartha
3:50pmAmara
Yes, everyone must transcend their sexuality but it usually takes time and practice.
3:50pmPayonidhi Das
and all other kinds of illicit sex ideas
I agree
3:50pmAmara
Everyone is at different levels also...
3:50pmPayonidhi Das
is there any example of thirdgender devotees in sastra''
yes true
3:51pmAmara
The most famous example is of Arjuna as Brihannala.
3:51pmPayonidhi Das
well he was cursed by Urvasi for one year
3:52pmAmara
Or Mitra and Varuna. There are so many examples actually...you may read our article "Hindu Deities and the Third Sex."
3:52pmPayonidhi Das
as he refused to fall for her charms and
she is the great great great grandmother of the Pandavas
3:53pmAmara
Yes, so for one year he was third-gendered. But during this time he set the proper example and was welcomed by the king, even though he was crossdressing.
3:53pmPayonidhi Das
well I will educatewmy self a bit better
he was dressed AS A MALE?
or female?
3:54pmAmara
The saintly king, Virata Maharaja, had no problem with Brihannala's crossdressing and womanly behaviors.
3:54pmPayonidhi Das
so he was dressed as a woman then?
3:54pmAmara
He was dressed in a colorful sari, with bangles, and swinging his hips around.
3:55pmPayonidhi Das
but he never had illcit sex
3:55pmAmara
Yes. A typical what we would say today as transgender.
No, there is no mention of sex.
3:55pmPayonidhi Das
or engaged in ..yes
but if someone takes this example to
3:56pmAmara
We do not advocate any illicit sex in GALVA, either.
3:56pmPayonidhi Das
condone their own homosexaul activites that is irreligious
good
but even when married that is still illict sex
as there can be no marriage between two of the same sex
it isw never allowed in manu Samhita
3:57pmAmara
Yes, but that is only the best they can do. They can live outside the temple therefore and visit.
3:57pmPayonidhi Das
do you agree?
yes, we should never look down on them
put pray for their spiritual wellbeing with all love and compassion
3:58pmAmara
Just like we may allow heterosexual couples do visit the temple, even if they have sex which is not for children.
3:58pmPayonidhi Das
yes visiting is never a problem even for homosexauls or lesbians
but in the asrama there can be no such thing..
3:59pmAmara
Ideally, yes, but some temples do have problems even with this. They are unfriendly toward gays and make them feel unwelcome at the temple.
3:59pmPayonidhi Das
or even illicit sex within marriage
this is not good
there should be open doors for all
as long as they do nto use the rtemple to find partners
4:00pmAmara
Yes, the temple and the ashrama must have strict standards.
4:00pmPayonidhi Das
good we agree on almost everything then
4:01pmAmara
Yes, it seems so. Sometimes devotees forget that we must be kind toward the fallen, not condescending and cruel toward them.
4:01pmPayonidhi Das
I have seen many gays and lesbians come to our temples
4:01pmAmara
In Denmark?
4:01pmPayonidhi Das
well that is the neophyte mentality
yes also
I helped start ISKCON there in 1979
4:02pmAmara
Where are you now? I live in Hawaii.
4:02pmPayonidhi Das
Maryland
4:02pmAmara
Oh, really? I first joined in Wash.D.C.
4:02pmPayonidhi Das
we often had gays and lesbians come to our first temple in Denamrk
4:03pmAmara
I was the first pujari for Sri Sita-Rama.
4:03pmPayonidhi Das
what year
nice
maye yo uknow Narasimha das
black body bookdsitributor
4:03pmAmara
I joined in 1974. Sita-Rama were installed in 1981.
4:03pmPayonidhi Das
ok
4:03pmAmara
No, I moved to Hawaii in 1982.
4:03pmPayonidhi Das
and later yo urealized you was gay?
sorry to ask such a bold question
4:04pmAmara
No. I was always gay from birth. I came out to the devotees a few months after joining.
4:04pmPayonidhi Das
ok
4:04pmAmara
They were very kind and accepting. More so in those days. Now devotees have become more conservative.
4:05pmPayonidhi Das
so it seems completle celibacy is the only solution
4:05pmAmara
Celibacy or else marriage. Most people cannot follow complete celibacy.
4:06pmPayonidhi Das
well amybe protective of other congregation that may be turned of by a couple that is gya or lesbian
well that is sad
4:06pmAmara
Most temples don't mind gay couples nowadays as it's becoming more common. As long as they live outside there should be no problem.
4:07pmPayonidhi Das
gay or lesbian tendency is something Srila Prabhupada also in one case heavely chastised a devotee who was gay maybe it was Upendra
yes as long as they do not show "public affection"
it should be ok
4:08pmAmara
Prabhupada once told Upendra if he was too agitated he should "just find a nice boy and settle down."
4:08pmPayonidhi Das
just no kisisng or holding hadns etc
4:08pmAmara
Yes, of course.
4:08pmPayonidhi Das
really I never saw suh a letter
you have this in writting
at least better than having sex with boys liek Bhavananda
4:09pmAmara
You can read all of these things on our site. I've included everything Srila Prabhupada ever said regarding homosexuality, both good and bad.
4:09pmPayonidhi Das
I met a nepali boy molested by him
very good
4:09pmAmara
Prabhupada didn't mean "boy" he meant another man.
4:10pmPayonidhi Das
yes I undrstand
if those who where homosexauls whould nto become Gurus and sannyasis this is my main concern
4:10pmAmara
I think ISKCON is better nowadays in dealing with pedophiles, both gay and straight.
4:10pmPayonidhi Das
yes that is true
it is very demoniac
4:11pmAmara
There are many nice sannyasis and gurus who are gay but have completely renounced sex.
4:11pmPayonidhi Das
reallu like who
4:11pmAmara
So it doesn't really matter what type of body a person has...anyone can renounce.
4:12pmPayonidhi Das
well I do nto think anyone wiht homosexeuals tendencied should even live in a temple
what to speak of becoming a guru or sannyasi
4:12pmAmara
Then you would have forbidden me from ever becoming a devotee! LOL!
4:12pmPayonidhi Das
then there will be fall down
well at leat you never had illict sex in the temple
4:13pmAmara
I had over twenty wonderful years of living in the temple and doing services for Krsna.
4:13pmPayonidhi Das
and did you have illict sex?
4:13pmAmara
No, of course not. Do you think all gay devotees have illicit sex?
Many are sincere and celibate.
4:14pmPayonidhi Das
sorry I have hard time to believe that
4:14pmAmara
Prabhupada allowed many gay devotees to live in his temples, and they all had homosexual orientation.
4:14pmPayonidhi Das
yes this was the beginning
but times has shown us differently
4:15pmAmara
That is prejudice on your part. Do you think only heterosexuals can be celibate and renounced?
As I said earlier, there are many wonderful gay brahmacaris and sannyasis.
4:15pmPayonidhi Das
no but those who are gays will more likely fall with children than any striaght person
this is why
if I know they are gay I will personally not assocaite with them closely
4:16pmAmara
That is not true. Over 75% of all child abuse cases are committed by heterosexuals.
Well, then you are prejudiced.
4:16pmPayonidhi Das
really
I do not know all cases but the ones I knew where all homosexauls c
not that all homosexauls are pedofiles
4:17pmAmara
Yes, men abusing small girls. One of my best devotee friends had his daughter abused by a devotee schoolmaster, but that doesn't mean we should hate all heterosexuals.
4:17pmPayonidhi Das
you are such a case
yes that is also demoniac
I agree
the point i am making the kids have to be protected at all cost
do you agree?
now many temples do no lkonger allow kids even to stay overnight
so having a homo sexaul Guru and sannyasis is sick c
why should anyone bow to such a person
4:20pmAmara
Because he is completely renounced all material activities and devoted his life to Krsna.
4:20pmPayonidhi Das
no not good enough
unles he is a pure devotee
4:20pmAmara
Why should it matter what type of body someone has? Would you not bow down before a black guru, or a female guru?
4:21pmPayonidhi Das
just liek Kirtananda ,Bhavananda,Rohini Kumara
all homosexauls
4:21pmAmara
Actually, many ISKCON gurus are gay but they are not open about it.
4:21pmPayonidhi Das
and all having sex with boys
well then they are rascals
4:22pmAmara
No one defends their bad behavior. But they are not examples for homosexuals.
4:22pmPayonidhi Das
I am glad yo utell me,I will nto offer obaisences ot any of them imagien I pay ovbaisences ot a gay Guru
4:22pmAmara
Is Ravana the example for heterosexuals?
You have probably already done so many times, because no one knows who is gay and who is not! LOL!
4:22pmPayonidhi Das
no of a sannaysis that dresses up to have illict sex
ravana Sannyasa
yes disgustingly
4:23pmAmara
BV Vaishnava Maharaja, for example, is a wonderful sannyasi who happens to be openly gay yet strictly celibate.
He is admired by all Vaishnavas.
4:24pmPayonidhi Das
from Narayana MNaharaja math?
well that is good he has admitted past mistakes
i know him
4:25pmAmara
There are so many. You should not be prejudiced against sincere devotees who have surrendered their lives to Krsna. It is an offense to view a Vaishnava in terms of their material body type.
4:26pmPayonidhi Das
yes as long as they do not fall down
but they should be honest about their past sins
not cover it up
I can respect Vaisnava maharaja for saying this was my past
those who hide there past is doing a great disservice simply for prestige
4:28pmAmara
What do you mean? All devotees have a sinful past...
4:28pmPayonidhi Das
yes that is true
or mostly
4:28pmAmara
Yes, I agree. It is not good to hide. That's why I believe in being honest and open about oneself.
4:28pmPayonidhi Das
but if one comes from such a very sinful past one should admit it
open with one self and others
4:29pmAmara
Devotees should be honest, open, straightforward, etc.
4:29pmPayonidhi Das
yes
that is our philosophy'
4:29pmAmara
I think you are confusing sin with nature.
4:29pmPayonidhi Das
I liek to know if I am sending a new devotee to be initiated by a former gay
4:29pmAmara
I was also gay before becoming a devotee but I never had sex before.
4:30pmPayonidhi Das
and becomeing a devotee made you gay?
one minut
4:30pmAmara
Gay does not mean having sex! It just means you were born with homosexual orientation.
You are attracted by nature to the same sex.
So I was gay before becoming a devotee, but I never had sex before. So how is that anymore sinful than a straight devotee who had so much illicit sex before coming to the temple?
4:32pmPayonidhi Das
lets talk later I have to make offering
toKrsna and Giriraja
4:32pmAmara
OK. Hare Krishna!
4:32pmPayonidhi Das
thanks for talking to me I will get back to you
Hare krsna I appriciate your openness
and honesty
4:33pmAmara
Jaya Prabhupada!
4:33pmPayonidhi Das
all glories to Sri Nama Prabhu
that reveals our real spiritual nature
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