Those grhasthas that sleep in the same room as their wife have illicit sex!

[Paramananda das]

Those grhasthas that sleep in the same room as their wife have illicit sex!

In 1995 I was asked to leave ISKCON Potomac temple because I opposed demigod worship in the culture hall and some ISKCON congregation going inside the culture hall and attending these bogus events.Later the GBC passed laws in 1996 to rectifie this mistake when I complained about it to the GBC. Anyhow it was all l part of Krsnas plan for me .So somehow Brahmananda Prabhu would come and visit me and those devotees I stayed with in Virginia we rented an apartment together. So every wedensday he would come and I would cook prasadam and feed around 10 devotees what I  had offered to my Salagrama and Govardhana silas .So Brahmananda Prabhu told us a time he was with Srila Prabhupada in Vrindavana in 1975, and Srila Prabhupada stated that those who sleep in the same room as their wife have illicit sex with them.So Srila Prabhupada at this time told the TP at the time ,I will not mention the name as not seem to offend anyone.That he should not sleep in the same room as his wife they should sleep seperatly .Srila Prabhupada said this should be the standard especially in Vrindavana. So the Temple president told Srila Prabhupada he did not have illlict sex with his wife.As they where leaving Srila Prabhupada turned around to Brahmananda Prabhu and the other devotees: "Those who sleep in the same room with their wife are grhamedhis not grhasthas and they will have illicit sex with their wife .Srila Prabhupada went on to explain that Gaudiya Vaisnavas sleep separately from their wife, and that in the inner part of the house the women and children sleep and the outer part the men sleep, and if someone attacks the house then the first line of defense of the women , elderly family members and children will be protected by the men or husband in case only one man is in the house. Srila Prabhupada thus divided the house as Bahiranga and Antaranga inner and outer part of the house.Srila Prabhupada said that in West Bengal this is left over from the time of Lord Caitanya and His associates that where extremely renounced.
Some thoughts I later had that while traveling such arrangement can not always be made to sleep seperatly from ones wife, but Vaisnavas only have sex with their wife from procreation otherwise not (SB 7.9.45 ) .In South India there is a pastime of disciples of Sri Ramanujacarya husband and wife where Ramanujacarya had one disciple plunder them while they slept in the same bed, it was part of a test to show his renounciates that this grhastha couple where even more renounced than them. It is a longer pastime.So in this case it appears they slept in the same room and bed .But Srila Prabhupadas instruction is very clear for what he wanted in ISKCON Vrindavana an example of renounced grhasthas .Brahmananda Prabhu finished the pastime with that Srila Prabhupada compared women to fire and men like butter .They will both melt in the fire of lust and may engage in illicit sex so better is they keep some distance when it comes to sleeping arrangement. I hope I have not offended anyone by telling this pastime of Srila Prabhupada.But remembering Brahmananda Prabhu today this pastime came to mind so I like to share it .
 

your humble servant
Paramananda das